Comments on: Connect With Your Teen Through Facebook http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/2008/10/20/connect-with-your-teen-through-facebook/ Mon, 22 Feb 2010 17:30:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: shannon http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/2008/10/20/connect-with-your-teen-through-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-3891 shannon Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:43:05 +0000 http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/?p=299#comment-3891 Thanks for the article! I am a mom of high shooler, middle schooler and toddler, all boys. I am tech savy to a point, and have facebook and myspace. I too, have their passwords for both accounts and it is interesting to see their moods, their friends, and what they are interested in at this particular moment in life, security and privacy is an issue and I have made sure they have their profile set to private, however not sure how great that is since they both have hundreds of "friends". Thanks for the article! I am a mom of high shooler, middle schooler and toddler, all boys. I am tech savy to a point, and have facebook and myspace. I too, have their passwords for both accounts and it is interesting to see their moods, their friends, and what they are interested in at this particular moment in life, security and privacy is an issue and I have made sure they have their profile set to private, however not sure how great that is since they both have hundreds of “friends”.

]]> By: Noelle http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/2008/10/20/connect-with-your-teen-through-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-3512 Noelle Sat, 25 Oct 2008 20:18:13 +0000 http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/?p=299#comment-3512 I have so many pages open to read from twitter, this was in my dock still today! Wanted to say, as I am going to writing about this as well, so many moms THINK they are monitoring their child's FB or Myspace. My daugheter (15) has had both for a year now. I joined to so I could learn all about it ~how it works, saftey concerns, settings for privacy etc. AND to see what can happen 'behind' what you actually see on their pages. I trust my daughter, have an incredible relationship. She gladly gave me her passwords for both accounts ( as I have for all accts) I hardly ever go in as she has been guided very well and really uses wisdom when accepting friends etc. (which is huge) What I want to refer back to - is if you are a mom and only monitor FB and MYSPace by looking at their friends and their profile pages, you might be in for a bit of a shocker when you go in and see the private messages, bulletins,things they choose to show on their profiles to certain people. Be their friend. My daughter has me as her top friend on both. :-) She respects me and I do her. Alot of these kids are putting ALL their info- phones, IM, email, everything. But have their settings where 'friends of friends' CAN see all of that info to AND who ever is looking over their shoulder! Great post Alyssa! I just get passionate because I see so much of it FB and Myspace. Ly daughters friends actually be-friend me and ask me for help. Or I Will private message them to say- hey- you need to set your privacy settings... So get in there moms- Get an actual acct even if you never use it but to be informed of how it really works! PS-- pulling my girlie into Twitter- too funny. @TakeRoot is me! Blessings! Noelle I have so many pages open to read from twitter, this was in my dock still today!
Wanted to say, as I am going to writing about this as well, so many moms THINK they are monitoring their child’s FB or Myspace. My daugheter (15) has had both for a year now. I joined to so I could learn all about it ~how it works, saftey concerns, settings for privacy etc. AND to see what can happen ‘behind’ what you actually see on their pages. I trust my daughter, have an incredible relationship. She gladly gave me her passwords for both accounts ( as I have for all accts) I hardly ever go in as she has been guided very well and really uses wisdom when accepting friends etc. (which is huge) What I want to refer back to – is if you are a mom and only monitor FB and MYSPace by looking at their friends and their profile pages, you might be in for a bit of a shocker when you go in and see the private messages, bulletins,things they choose to show on their profiles to certain people. Be their friend. My daughter has me as her top friend on both. :-) She respects me and I do her. Alot of these kids are putting ALL their info- phones, IM, email, everything. But have their settings where ‘friends of friends’ CAN see all of that info to AND who ever is looking over their shoulder!

Great post Alyssa! I just get passionate because I see so much of it FB and Myspace. Ly daughters friends actually be-friend me and ask me for help. Or I Will private message them to say- hey- you need to set your privacy settings…

So get in there moms- Get an actual acct even if you never use it but to be informed of how it really works!

PS– pulling my girlie into Twitter- too funny.
@TakeRoot is me!
Blessings!
Noelle

]]> By: Sandy http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/2008/10/20/connect-with-your-teen-through-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-3447 Sandy Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:44:09 +0000 http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/?p=299#comment-3447 Once again, very timely post. Both, my daughter who is a freshman in college, and my son who is a freshman in high school, thought it was a little weird at first, that their mom was facebooking, but they did both accept my friend request. Everything you said is exactly right. I did it as a way to keep in contact with my daughter and see pictures of her, and then I quickly found friends around my own age, too. It is always good to see what they post as their status, sometimes tells what they are feeling at the moment. Once again, very timely post. Both, my daughter who is a freshman in college, and my son who is a freshman in high school, thought it was a little weird at first, that their mom was facebooking, but they did both accept my friend request. Everything you said is exactly right. I did it as a way to keep in contact with my daughter and see pictures of her, and then I quickly found friends around my own age, too. It is always good to see what they post as their status, sometimes tells what they are feeling at the moment.

]]> By: adavant http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/2008/10/20/connect-with-your-teen-through-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-3444 adavant Mon, 20 Oct 2008 15:15:16 +0000 http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/?p=299#comment-3444 Very smart to do too Jennifer. I totally agree. Monitoring Facebook is a smart move for parents and being open with them that you are doing so is the best way to go. Very smart to do too Jennifer. I totally agree. Monitoring Facebook is a smart move for parents and being open with them that you are doing so is the best way to go.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/2008/10/20/connect-with-your-teen-through-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-3443 Jennifer Mon, 20 Oct 2008 15:05:53 +0000 http://www.beautybydesignonline.com/?p=299#comment-3443 I Facebook and I am friends with a lot of my kids friends. One thing I learned early on is that kids these days have potty mouths. I have had to train myself to not comment on the bad words they are using unless they use it on my wall, which hasn't happened yet. My theory is that their Facebook wall is just like their own bedroom and if they want to live in that dirt it is their choice. That being said I monitor my own kids Facebook walls and clean up anything inappropriate when/if I find it. My kids all know that I am checking their sites and we have also discussed how what they do in public (which lets face it, the internet is public) reflects on the family as a whole and therefore we (mom and dad) will be watching it. I Facebook and I am friends with a lot of my kids friends. One thing I learned early on is that kids these days have potty mouths. I have had to train myself to not comment on the bad words they are using unless they use it on my wall, which hasn’t happened yet. My theory is that their Facebook wall is just like their own bedroom and if they want to live in that dirt it is their choice. That being said I monitor my own kids Facebook walls and clean up anything inappropriate when/if I find it. My kids all know that I am checking their sites and we have also discussed how what they do in public (which lets face it, the internet is public) reflects on the family as a whole and therefore we (mom and dad) will be watching it.

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