Is Group Dating really a good idea?

Group dating sounds like a good idea right? It probably sounds safer, less intimidating, less tempting to be intimate, more fun and less pressure. Right?? Maybe, but maybe not, as a teenager I often group dated with my boyfriend and some friends. In my experience most of what was expected of a group date was not true. Sure it was fun sometimes, especially when you go for a round of bowling or goofy golf, in those cases the more the merrier. But what about when the group’s choice is to attend a party with alcohol and you feel left out because you don’t drink and maybe even don’t want to attend. Or perhaps they want to watch a movie at one of the group’s houses, sounds harmless right. Well, let me tell you about my experience.

I was 17, my boyfriend and I had been dating for 2 years. We were on a “group date” where we were going to one of the guys houses to watch a movie. They decided to watch it in the guys bedroom and all wanted to get in the bed together and “make out”. I was NOT going to do this. Not only did I get into a bad situation of temptation but I also was being pressured by my friends to participate. It was not a good situation nor did it leave me with a good feeling about group dates. Luckily, I talked my boyfriend into taking me home and the night ended well. I didn’t go on too many group dates after that and I’m not sure I’d recommend them now.

One thing is for sure, evaluate all the options, scenarios and possibilities when deciding if you really want to go on a “group date.” You might be better off a couple at least you can make your own choices.

A great resource for teens on dating is I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris.

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